My Favourite Baby Products Newborn to 3 Months

Being a first-time mom I did a lot of research on what baby products to have ready for when Lyla arrived. However, you don’t really know what works until your baby is here. For our family, these products have worked well, were mostly inexpensive and made caring for a baby easier. A major goal I had when researching baby items was to find stuff we could get a lot of use out of and not have a ton of baby stuff to store later on.

Sleeping

Pack N’ Play


This was a non-negotiable item for us. I knew we’d get a lot of use out of it from the newborn stage right until she’s a toddler. Pack n’ play’s come from basic all the way to having nappers and change tables. I opted for a more basic pack n’ play with the bassinet as we have a change table with our crib and I wanted her to sleep in the bassinet portion beside our bed at night. I didn’t need the extra accessories taking up room in our small apartment.

Although the pack n play is a bit wide beside our bed I like that it’s a multi-use item and we won’t have to store a bassinet that she’ll outgrow in a few months.

Halo Swaddle Sleepsack


We received this from a friend and at first, I wasn’t sure how to use it. It’s basically a wearable blanket that zips over babies pyjama’s and then there is velcro to ensure a tight and easy swaddle. This was a great option to keep Lyla warm as she born during the late fall. It is also a safer option than a swaddle blanket because the armholes prevent the blanket from going over her head.

Swing


During my research, a lot of moms said a swing was a lifesaver during the first few months. I made sure to add this my registry. Thankfully my aunt gave us this Fisher Price one. It’s super soft, has a newborn insert, plays music and swings at 5 different speeds (although we’ve only used the first two speeds). She takes most of her naps during the day in the swing. Lyla loves how soft and cozy her swing feels.

4 in 1 Crib and Change Table

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When looking for a crib the first place I checked was Amazon as I didn’t want to spend a lot of money (my parents actually gifted us this crib). I showed my husband the various options and he immediately selected this 4 in 1 Portofino crib. It got great reviews and is comparable to more expensive cribs. I wasn’t sure at first that we even needed a change table (I’m kind of a minimalist). However, with both of us being on the tall side the height and convenience of this table is something I really appreciate. Plus it has big, easy to open drawers to store all her diapering supplies, sheets and other nursery items. It also converts to a toddler bed and eventually and double.

Clothing

Before having Lyla I didn’t really know what to dress a newborn in, so I Googled it. I discovered its best to avoid pants for the first bit because the waistband can irritate their umbilical cord. For the first few weeks we dressed her in a onesie (to keep warm) and newborn size pj’s from Carters.

Carter’s Pj’s

Baby Pajamas

We liked these Carter’s pj’s because they were super soft, cute, easy to buy and affordable. As I said these are all she wore until she fit into her 0-3 month clothes.

George white onesies

I love these basic Walmart onesies, they’re easy to get on and off. Although they do run a little on the larger size. She’s still wearing the newborn size at 2 and half months.

Bows

Baby Headband

When preparing for a little girl I wanted to get lots of bows! I scoured Etsy for cute handmaid bows from Canada. A darling shop called Little Luba in Saskatchewan stood out to me for their multipack of 3 bows. I chose red, white and pink after looking at the colours of her clothing. These bows are nice because they are simple and the band fits snug on her head but isn’t tight or rough.

Bath Time

Tub

Baby Bath
I know a lot of people don’t like baby tubs because they take up a lot of room. However, we don’t have a bathtub where we live right now so having this portable tub that we can fill has worked great for us. I like how it includes a hammock which supports them as a newborn all the way to having a seat for when they can sit up on their own. This is another item we will get a lot of use out of.

CeraVe Cream


Lyla struggled with a little bit of eczema on her tummy so our doctor recommended this cream to help prevent future outbreaks. So far it has worked really well to keep her skin hydrated and soft.

Toys

Kick and Play Piano


Lyla is still quite young so she doesn’t play with a lot of toys. However, she loves her kick and play piano gym. As she kicks the piano plays different songs and she can also bat at her toys. Its a perfect toy for this age as she is still lying mostly on her back. It also converts for tummy time as the toys can be moved the ground. The piano can also be used as she gets older and can sit up.

VTech Baby Lil’ Critters Moosical Beads


Lyla also loves to play with her cow. The bright lights and different music keep her entertained. I’ll often set her up in her swing with her cow while I’m making dinner and getting ready. She’s just getting to the stage where she can press the buttons. I also like that this toy is for birth and up.  I found out about this toy because it’s a best seller on Amazon.

Out of the House

Carseat Cover

Baby Carseat Cover

I absolutely love our Covered Goods 4 in one nursing cover. I use it to block the wind on the car seat when transporting Lyla. It keeps the light out as we drive or when the lights of a store are overstimulating her. Then when I need to nurse it’s lightweight and provides all around coverage. It’s especially convenient when eating out a restaurant and she needs to eat or while running errands.

Carseat Mirror

Baby Carseat Mirror

Another travel essential is a mirror to see the baby when driving. I love being able to look in my rearview mirror and see that Lyla is sleeping or just enjoying looking out the window. It gives me peace of mind especially when I’m running errands alone with her.


What are your favourite baby products? Let me know in the comments!

My Favourite Baby Essentials Newborn to Three Months


For more on my pregnancy and postpartum journey read:
1st Trimester Update
2nd Trimester Update (21W2D)
3rd Trimester Update
Everything No One Tells You About Your First Pregnancy (Part 1)
Everything No One Tells You About You’re First Pregnancy (Part 2)
Baby K’s Birth Story + Baby K’s Birth Story Part 2
Everything No One Told Me About Postpartum
What to Eat While Breastfeeding

Everything No One Told Me About Postpartum

Lyla is six weeks old and I finally feel like I’m emerging from the postpartum fog. I expected birthing her to be hard but I was not prepared for the unique and unexpected trials of postpartum life. Of course, I’m so happy to have my sweet daughter but I’m not enjoying the challenges postpartum has brought to me personally. Everyone’s recovery and experiences are different but I want to share my experience in the hope that if you are pregnant or postpartum we can support each other in our journeys.

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Postpartum or the first few months after birth when your hormones are finding their way back to normal can be a particularly traumatic time for any new mom.

Breastfeeding: learning to breastfeed, engorgement, leaky breasts…

Breastfeeding is natural, yes but it’s a skill that both you and baby have to learn. I thought I was prepared to breastfeed, I took a class and read a giant book on the subject. Yet I still struggled to get a good latch (I had to stay at the hospital and work on breastfeeding before being discharged) and to keep my baby alert enough to feed (we had to strip her down to her diaper to feed and use a cold cloth and tickle her to keep her focused). I ended up having to hand express colostrum and feed it through a syringe. Couple these challenges with the afterpains of birth, lack of sleep and a small crowded hospital room-not fun!

I also wasn’t prepared for the seemingly endless hours of feeding known as cluster feeding. Usually, this occurs at night when you are exhausted and wondering how you can stay awake enough to keep nursing. One consolation is that when the baby is done you both can finally sleep…for a short few hours.

A few days after finding out what cluster feeding was my milk came in. I was not prepared for how engorged, heavy and lumpy I felt. Not to mention the pain of being so full. However, I was advised to take a hot shower, try some hand expression to relieve some of the engorgement and firmly push down and out on the ducts while nursing to release some pressure.

Finally, don’t forget those breast pads because one look at your baby and the milk can come “pouring” out of your breasts. I was astounded at first by how much milk I was leaking.

Helpful Breastfeeding Supports:

  • My Brest Friend pillow
  • towels, burp cloths, swaddle blankets-anything to wipe up milk dripping on you and the baby
  • co-sleeping + lay down feeding
  • a supportive partner
  • Netflix
  • inexpensive nursing bra’s + bralettes (trust me you’re going to be leaking a lot of milk all over your bra’s)
  • Milkies Milk Saver-this is worn on the breast not used for feeding to catch any milk, it works great and surprisingly catches a lot of milk! It also prevents the mess from leaking.

I’m very thankful for the ability to breastfeed my baby. However, there have been many times where I’ve wanted to give up, partly to get a break from being the sole, on-demand feeder. According to the parenting forums around month, three things will get easier so I’m holding out for that.

Baby Blues

I thought pregnancy messed with my emotions. Well, postpartum really messed things up. Physiologically your progesterone drops (which affects one’s mood) and prolactin increase in order to breastfeed which is good. However, these changes can really affect one’s mental state. For example, I cry when I don’t want to. I’ll be talking to my husband trying to explain something that’s bothering me and I’ll well up with tears. Which make the issue seem way bigger than it really is. In reality, I can’t help the tears from falling out. I’m not trying to get a reaction out of him, my body is just taking over my tear ducts.

Aside from crying are the feelings of inadequacy, guilt, and fear. At times I feel incapable of my role or that I’m doing it wrong. I especially feel this way when I have to get up in the middle of the night and lift her out of her bed to feed or change her. I love my daughter but sometimes I just can’t extend myself any more than I have. This leads to thoughts of “If this is so hard, how could I ever going to care for multiple children?”. I do have a lot of support and encouragement around me but obviously, we are our own worst critic.

Self Care

Finally, self-care is so important during this period. This is something I discussed with my midwife and she noted how if I take care of myself I will be a better mom. Although I knew this it was a reminder I needed to hear. I try to get out for a daily walk at 2 pm each day, I make a point to shower at least every other day, I keep ingredients on hand to make a filling, protein-rich smoothie that I can drink while nursing and somedays I’ll quickly do my makeup while the baby is in her swing and I try to wear something that I feel cute in.

Even though things have gotten better over the last few weeks, my midwife noted that postpartum depression can occur anytime up to two years after giving birth. It’s not always easy to address mental health issues but it is so important to make sure you are taking care of yourself and get support when you need it. Finally, one thing I appreciated was at each of our appointments my midwife would ask how my mood was. Being that I trusted my healthcare provider I could be open to her about my concerns and she was able to provide any resources I might need.

Bleeding + Padsicles

After giving birth you bleed a lot. Especially in the first few days. This is known as lochia and is due to the placenta being removed. The body has to heal the place where the placenta was attached and until that occurs you bleed. This makes sense because the placenta transferred everything baby needed through blood vessels and when the placenta came out at birth the area has to heal.

Lochia is just another fun thing to deal with after giving birth. Thankfully I have a few tips that can make this time more bearable!

First use disposable type underwear (think Depends, you can get a free sample on their website) for the first few days when the flow is the heaviest (so much better coverage than what the hospital provides). For the rest of the days Always Overnight pads (the purple ones) are great. They have two wings and are super long which provides a lot of coverage. Also, buy some throwaway larger pairs of underwear for the postpartum period. Finally padsicles. Basically, take your pads pour some witch hazel (to help with healing) over them, aloe vera and if you want lavender oil, fold them back up in the wrapper and using a large Ziploc bag store them in the freezer until needed. You can wear them straight from the freezer or thaw them out for a few minutes. Either way the coolness feels amazing, especially during those first very sore weeks.

4th Trimester

Understanding the 4th-trimester concept has changed the way I view my baby’s needs during this newborn period and has allowed me to not feel guilty for putting other things on hold.

The idea of a fourth trimester is about seeing the first three months as baby’s adjustment to the world. They spent the last 9 months in utero, all cozy, warm and constantly fed. On the outside babies still have the same needs to be near to mom, lots of cuddles, feeling secure, eating on demand, sleeping…

With this view in mind, I’ve tried to put less pressure on myself in regards to anything that would take me away from the baby. If I’m stuck on the couch cluster feeding for a few hours and just watching Netflix I don’t feel guilty.

Especially in the first few weeks when you’re healing, in pain and can barely walk it’s best to just lay low. Your family, visitors and friends should understand and will most likely be willing to help out with meals, dishes, cleaning or anything else you need.

Remember babies are only babies for such a short time so savour each moment!

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Postpartum or the first few months after birth when your hormones are finding their way back to normal can be a particularly traumatic time for any new mom.

Everything No One Told Me About Pospartum


The Christian Postpartum Course by Angie Tolpin

Nothing in this post is sponsored. However, I did want to share one final resource I stumbled upon thanks to Audrey Rollofs Instagram story about a postpartum course offered by her friend Angie Tolpin of the blog Courageous Mom. Audrey herself struggled a lot postpartum (her sweet daughter Ember is 2 months old), she had troubles breastfeeding and mastitis twice. Since Angie was a personal friend she was able to reach out to her for support. Unfortunately, not everyone has a friend like Angie. That is why she created the Christian Postpartum Course.

Who is Angie Tolpin? 

Angie is a mom of 7 with a heart for helping moms in all areas of pregnancy, birth, postpartum and parenting. She created a course that combines practical advice and tips along with a biblical perspective. She even addresses intimacy after having a baby.

Angie shares that:

Unfortunately, many women are not willing to talk about postpartum and those who do, are shining God’s glory in ministering to their sisters in humanity through sharing what God has taught them, but many times they either cannot offer Biblical insight ALONG WITH PRACTICAL TEACHING THAT HELPS or they are not offering that teaching from a Biblical perspective at all.

To find out more about the course click here.


For more on my pregnancy and postpartum journey read:
1st Trimester Update
2nd Trimester Update (21W2D)
3rd Trimester Update
Everything No One Tells You About Your First Pregnancy (Part 1)
Everything No One Tells You About You’re First Pregnancy (Part 2)
Baby K’s Birth Story + Baby K’s Birth Story Part 2
Everything No One Told Me About Postpartum
What to Eat While Breastfeeding

Baby K’s Birth Story Part 2

To read Part 1 of my birth story click here

We arrived at the hospital at 1 pm and met our primary midwife in the maternal triage area (we also had a second midwife assist during the birth). She lead us across the hall to the delivery room where I changed into a gown and laid down on the bed. I looked out the window and noted our nice view of autumn coloured trees covering the city. The distraction was a good way to start the day.

My midwife then checked my cervix and proceeded to break my water. Although this procedure was somewhat uncomfortable Mike kept me distracted by making me laugh and holding my hand, so the pain was very bearable. Plus I was excited to finally be in the process of getting my baby into the world.

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Walking the halls after being induced

Following my water being broken we walked the hallways until 3:30 pm, getting mine and the baby’s vitals checked every half hour by the midwives. As I was walking I could still feel water gushing out, it was a very icky feeling! Nonetheless, I kept walking determined to start labor. When I hadn’t progressed by 3:30 pm I was put on Pitocin through an IV.

As my contractions progressed from slightly uncomfortable cramps to being more noticeable I moved onto the birth ball at the end of the bed. I really liked this position because I had a lot of back labor.  It was helpful to be able to lean over the bed, roll my hips and still be somewhat mobile during labor and between contractions. The midwives and Mike also applied counter pressure to my back which felt amazing during the contractions.

Support During Labor

By far the most helpful support during labor was my husband. He was honestly so incredible during the whole process and I could not have gone through any of this without him by my side. Each contraction I would squeeze his hand and lean into him. He was so encouraging through each contraction reminding me to breathe and relax my body. During the final stages of labor, when I couldn’t talk he put a cool cloth on my head.

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I found that the beginning of a contraction was hard but once I was able to tell myself to relax and breathe through it, the contraction became bearable. However, in the end, I was on the verge of asking for something to help with the pain. I also told myself that each contraction was a good thing. I really believe the mind controls the body and you can tell your body how to behave. Labour was not easy but it was not impossible. I tried to take it one contraction at a time.

Almost Time to Meet Baby K

Eventually, the contractions became very strong and I was tired of sitting on the birth ball so I moved onto the bed. Unfortunately relocating to the bed caused the contractions to increase in intensity. I laid on my side and bore through each contraction hoping that it was almost over. Not long after to my surprise I had the urge to push. Although I was not speaking at this point I knew I had to express this feeling. My midwife told me to listen to my body and I began pushing a little during contractions. I also turned over onto my back. Then I had the urge to go to the bathroom I wanted to go sit on the toilet and push. After the midwife checked me she said that the baby was very close. I was surprised to feel pressure in that area of my body being from the baby.

At this point, I knew it had to almost be over. In fact, I only pushed for 20 minutes, although it felt a lot longer. Looking back I did tire myself pushing because I was so determined to get her out. I also didn’t push on the contractions as I should have.

The baby began to crown but my body was still too tight to let her out. Her heart rate also began to drop so my midwife informed me she needed to perform a [second-degree] episiotomy (in my birth plan I wanted to avoid this). I wasn’t numbed during the procedure which included cutting through my skin and muscle to give the baby more room to come out. Although it was painful my focus was entirely on the baby and not on some temporary pain I had to endure. I tried to apply this thinking to all of labor. It was hard and very painful but it was bearable because I knew it was all for my baby. One thing I’ve learned from giving birth and especially bringing Lyla home is how selfless a baby causes you to be.

Following the episiotomy, the midwife told me to push with all I had. I gave it everything, I was almost yelling my energy was so intense. For me being a quiet person this behavior surprised even me. However, I didn’t care because I knew I was so close to meeting my baby. Finally, her head came out and then the shoulders. At 7:39 pm Lyla Dawn Kramer was delivered and placed on my chest.

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The whole process was so fast I felt almost numb after. My legs were shaking, I was in pain from the cut and I was suddenly a mom. It was a lot to take in.

After the cord stopped pulsing Mike cut it and the midwife took Lyla for some tests. Mike was right by her side the whole time talking to her. Lyla recognized his voice so well from hearing it when he would talk to her in utero.

Meanwhile, the other midwife brought me some toast and I began to get stitched up. Although receiving stitches was not fun once Lyla was back in my arms I just looked at her and the pain was nothing to worry about. I just focused on my sweet babe and knew these stitches were more than worth it because they allowed me to meet her.

Staying At the Hospital

Initially, I wanted to go home after the birth but since it was late and I was still recovering we decided to stay the night. I thought we would be leaving the next morning, but we ended up staying two nights and going home on Saturday. The reason for staying so much longer than anticipated was Lyla’s weak sucking and difficulty latching when I tried to feed her. As a result, the nurses and midwife had us stay until they felt confident in our ability to breastfeed.

At first, we were supposed to go home the next morning, then in the evening and then finally Saturday afternoon, we were discharged. It was really hard emotionally to keep thinking that we would be going home then having to stay longer.

Staying at the Hospital Was Actually a Good Thing

Looking back I’m glad we stayed because it was great to have 24-hour support from the nursing staff especially the first night. Lyla also had a lot of mucus and was coughing it up. I know that if we went home, we would have been unprepared to deal with this. The nurses showed us how to tilt her on her side and they tilted her bassinet to prevent mucus from going back down her esophagus.

By the time we went home, I felt a lot more confident in my ability to take care of a newborn. Although Mike was a little nervous I knew we could manage just fine on our own. Plus if we had any problems we could call our midwife anytime. It was also reassuring to know we would be getting a visit again from the midwife on days 3 and 5 at home.

Why I Would Have a Midwife Again

One of the best decisions we made was choosing a midwife as our healthcare provider. Our appointments were never rushed, we had support during the entire labour and the first week home the midwife came to our apartment (it was so nice to not have to go anywhere). She checked on me and the baby (she weighed Lyla, checked my stitches, and noted our vitals among other things). I had a low-risk pregnancy so for me a midwife was a great option, however, if I ever required an obstetrician the midwife would have ordered a consult (as she did when I needed Pitocin at the hospital).

Birth Story: Not as Planned

Finally, I want to conclude by noting that my whole birth experience was not according to plan at all. That was okay because life never goes “according to plan”. I wanted to go into labour naturally and deliver at a smaller hospital 15 minutes from home. Instead, I had to get induced at a very large hospital 30 minutes from home and go on Pitocin. I also didn’t want to receive an episiotomy. I planned on labouring in the tub to prevent this but it never took advantage of that option and because of the Pitocin. My labour progressed fairly fast resulting in an episiotomy. However, I am incredibly grateful to have delivered a healthy baby girl.


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For more on my pregnancy and postpartum journey read:
1st Trimester Update
2nd Trimester Update (21W2D)
3rd Trimester Update
Everything No One Tells You About Your First Pregnancy (Part 1)
Everything No One Tells You About You’re First Pregnancy (Part 2)
Baby K’s Birth Story + Baby K’s Birth Story Part 2
Everything No One Told Me About Postpartum
What to Eat While Breastfeeding

Baby K’s Birth Story

Welcome to our family Lyla Dawn Kramer <3

Birth story of Lyla Dawn who was delivered with an unmedicated birth after being induced and going on pitocin. The birth was assisted by midwives. Birth story of Lyla Dawn who was delivered with an unmedicated birth after being induced and going on pitocin. The birth was assisted by midwives.

Birth story of Lyla Dawn who was delivered with an unmedicated birth after being induced and going on pitocin. The birth was assisted by midwives.

The past two and half weeks have been filled with so much change, so much love and a lot of learning!

We are so thankful for the safe and healthy arrival of our sweet 7lb 9oz, 54 cm, Lyla Dawn. She is truly the greatest blessing me and Mike have ever been given and we are so in awe of our precious daughter.

Now onto the birth story!

Baby K’s due date of  Tuesday, October 17 came and went to our dismay. On Friday, October 20th I had my 40-week midwife appointment. Since Mike was working my mom accompanied me. Prior to this appointment, my midwife had discussed doing a stretch and sweep to help labour commence.

Thankfully my cervix was facing forward which made the procedure somewhat more bearable. It was painful especially in my back, which I did not expect. Nonetheless, I bore through it hoping I would get to meet my baby soon.

I was happy and surprised to learn I was dilated to a 3.  I hadn’t felt much significant pain other than a few jabs of back or stomach discomfort before this appointment. This also meant if I had to get induced my body was ready and would not need to be prepped by another procedure to open up my cervix. At this point, we impatiently waited for Baby K to start things. However, I was prepared to be overdue as most first babies don’t come early.

The rest of the day I felt tired and not super great. Other than a bit of cramping I really didn’t have any signs that labour was imminent. I did try to walk a bit around the mall with my mom before having lunch and heading home and resting.

If my labour did not progress naturally I would be induced the following Friday. I would also undergo two more ultrasounds to ensure the baby was doing well. Nothing happened all weekend so on Tuesday I headed to my ultrasound appointment with Mike.

Everything looked good until we got to the movement part of the test….

One of four things the technician was looking to see was Baby K flexing her hands a few times. She moved her hands a little bit but not satisfactorily for the test. We met with the radiologist and after he tried to get her to move and she wouldn’t he advised us to come back the next day for a followup ultrasound. He also called our midwife and gave her the results of the test. The midwife had us go to the hospital for a non-stress test. They monitored the baby’s heartbeat and I pressed a button every time I felt her move. Thankfully the test turned out fine and Baby K gave some good movements.

Our midwife also met us at the hospital and we discussed the possibility to be induced the next day instead of in two days (since we would have to come back to have our follow up ultrasound anyways). The hospital had an opening for an induction and since I was already 41 weeks 1 day I bumped two other women off the list in terms of priority.

Waiting and More Waiting

The following morning we headed to the hospital for our ultrasound. After being triaged in the maternal unit we waited about two and a half hours for the doctor.  At this point we were both tired, frustrated with the long wait and wondering whether we would still get induced that day.

We completed the ultrasound and Baby K did great! She was a lot more active than the previous day. Unfortunately, though, the hospital was behind on inductions and we were told to go home and wait for a phone call to come back.

As much of a letdown as it was going another day without having the hope of meeting Baby K we were both tired and being able to get extra sleep, clean and prepare some food was a good thing.

The next morning I received a call from my midwife at 9 am to update me on the hospital. More women had gone into spontaneous labour (lucky them!) and there were not any available beds. She said she would call me back around noon with another update. The upside was every day longer we waited our priority on the induction list increased.

At 11:30 am our midwife called to tell us the hospital had a bed for us and we should head to the hospital as soon as possible. We quickly texted our families to share the anticipated news that we were finally being induced and drove the half hour to the hospital…

Click here to read Part 2!

Birth story of Lyla Dawn who was delivered with an unmedicated birth after being induced and going on pitocin. The birth was assisted by midwives.


To read more pregnancy updates check out the following posts:

1st Trimester Update
2nd Trimester Update (21W2D)
3rd Trimester Update
Everything No One Tells You About Your First Pregnancy (Part 1)
Everything No One Tells You About You’re First Pregnancy (Part 2)
Baby K’s Birth Story + Baby K’s Birth Story Part 2
Everything No One Told Me About Postpartum
What to Eat While Breastfeeding

Baby K’s Baby Shower

I’m currently 39 weeks pregnant which means we are one week from my due date of October 17! I can’t believe how fast this pregnancy has flown by after the beginning stages feeling like they lasted forever. Alas, we are all ready for Baby K (thanks in part to the generosity of my baby shower) and are so anxious to meet her and introduce her to everyone.

Our wonderful church family hosted the most beautiful shower

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Me, my mom, sister and grandma’s <3
Baby shower for Baby K hosted by church. Learning to trust God in the midst of major life changes like moving to a new city with a newborn.
Such a beautiful and well-planned shower hosted by our church family! Baby K got spoiled <3
Baby shower for Baby K hosted by church. Learning to trust God in the midst of major life changes like moving to a new city with a newborn.
I can’t even handle the cuteness of this coat!

I’m also set to officially graduate on October 27! Currently, I’m unsure if I will be able to attend the ceremony. Yet I am going to try my best not to miss this monumental moment. Upon graduating and having Baby K I plan to take some time off. Although in the interim I would like to volunteer within my field, attend some networking events and a Home Economics conference in March.

Baby K is not the only change to our lives this fall, as Michael has started a new transportation job in a steel factory and as a result, we are moving. Although all these changes are good for us I’m also sad to be closing a chapter of our lives.

On the one hand, I appreciate that upon moving we will be less than 20 minutes from Mike’s work rather than an hour and he won’t have to traverse snowy, deer infested backroads anymore. Although moving is not fun, packing up our apartment has helped me pass the time while waiting for Baby K. Furthermore we will be closer to Mike’s family and still within an hour of my family.

However leaving our quaint small town, possibly our church and an area that I’ve lived in my whole life to move to the outskirts of a large city with a newborn is not the easiest transition. That being said we did only move to our current location to allow me to finish University and knew that eventually, we would be relocating. Nonetheless, I will miss the walkability of our neighbourhood, our late night McDonald’s runs and the charming rural atmosphere of our community. Our first tiny apartment and wonderful town we’ve called home for the past year and a half will always hold many special memories for us.

To be honest, as I think about these changes I can often get wrapped up in my emotions. I want things to stay the same although I know that’s not the best for us. I wonder if we will be able to find the same community we experience now with our church, whether I’ll meet other young moms and make friends and how long we will live in this next location.

I can at times get too consumed with worrying and certainly hearing others concerns also makes me worry more.  Yet, at the end of the day, I quell my fears by trusting that a lot of what’s happening in my life is not in my hands. We prayed for God to open up this opportunity for a better position for Michael and he proceeded through the hiring process fairly quickly. Furthermore, He provided a larger place for us to live that we could move into not long after the baby comes. Plus Michael only has to commute a long distance for a limited time. Certainly, there are upsides to relocating and I don’t need to worry about the future.

I have to put my trust not in man, or my husband or other people but in God. I know that no matter what happens or where we move He will watch over me and protect me. The best thing I can do when I feel uncertain or overwhelmed is to pray about the situation. Only God can change hearts, or direct others steps. I may have an influence but God has the power to effect His will in our lives.

A man’s heart devises his way: but the LORD directs his steps. Proverbs 16:9

I have to leave my anxieties, worries, and questions with God. I have to trust my husband and know that these next steps are what is best for us as a family, although it’s not easy for us, it’s good. As a wife, I want to be supportive of my husband.

 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Phillipians 4:6

I’m not perfect at espousing these truths and sometimes my pregnancy hormones make me cry when I think about all the coming adjustments. Most of the time I am excited and look forward to the future but other times I feel uncertain of this new chapter. I will have family close by so that is a huge blessing for sure.

However, my deepest desire and comfort rests not in man but in trusting God through prayer and dwelling on His word.

Yes, my soul, find rest in God;
    my hope comes from Him.
Truly He is my rock and my salvation;
    He is my fortress, I will not be shaken.
My salvation and my honor depend on God;
    He is my mighty rock, my refuge.
Trust in Him at all times, you people;
    pour out your hearts to Him,
    for God is our refuge.

Psalms 62:5-8