Everyone loves a good date night #amiright but sometimes when life is real and adulting is hard there just isn’t extra money to do the more extravagant things in life.
I write a lot on this blog of marriage and my experiences being married. I write about this topic because it’s relevant to my life at this point. However, before this current season, I spent a lot of time being single.
I’ve written a few posts about those days: Just Wait, When Everyone Else is Getting Engaged and Encouragement for Single Women. Although those were not the most favourite times in my life, they were necessary.
One lesson I learned was to be content on my own.
Everything in life takes time. Yet I want life to happen just like I’ve planned it:
- Meet a cute guy
- Get married
- Have kids
We are all trying to convince each other we’re content by saying:
“I’d love to be dating but, I’m good right now.
I’m not looking for a boyfriend.
God will bring me my prince charming.
I’m just really content with my life.
I’m too busy with school, this would not be a good time to have a boyfriend.”
Within the past two years, it seems I’ve known a lot of couples who’ve gotten married or engaged. (Just today I found out about two young ladies at church that had recently gotten engaged).
This is serious, people aren’t just dating anymore. I think I could’ve handled dating. Marriage is a huge step, it’s almost mind-blowing to me. Most of these couples are in their early twenties or late teens. It just seems almost preposterous to me, especially when there are virtually no potentials on my horizon.
A lot of times I feel very discouraged that I haven’t met the right guy or have never been in a relationship. Especially when I see other couples holding hands, working out at the gym together or at a party. It’s hard not to feel sad and lonely.