Everything No One Tells You About You’re First Pregnancy (Part 2)

In part one of this series, I talked about everything I didn’t expect during the first and second trimesters of pregnancy. Now that I’m near the end of my pregnancy I’m sharing more of what I’ve learned about pregnancy and birth.

To read Part 1 click here

Everything I didn't know during my pregnancy. The second trimester and beyond. Preparing for a first baby is fun and overwhelming.  #pregnancy #secondtrimester #firstbaby

1. You Don’t Need a Lot of Maternity Clothes

Prior to being pregnant, I dreamed of the day I would start buying cute maternity outfits. Then I realized a lot of my clothes would work just fine aside from jeans and a few tops.

If you think about it most longer sweaters and tank tops, shorts and stretchy dresses can still be worn while pregnant.

The only major purchases I’ve made have been for

  • jeans (these ones from Old Navy have great reviews + don’t forget to sign up for Ebates to earn 4% cash back!)
  • Leggings (also from Old Navy)
  • a few dresses (one bodycon, a chambray with buttons perfect for breastfeeding and a black and white polka dot dress).
  • Plus a few tanks for layering which will also be great for postpartum and nursing

The Second Half Goes by Faster!

Before 20 weeks and really before I started showing the weeks sort of dragged by very slowly. Now that I’m in the third trimester and in the 30’s for weeks time is moving faster. The baby also feels a lot bigger now and I’m much more aware of her presence than in previous weeks.

I also have midwife appointments every two weeks. Checking up on the baby this often has given me something to look forward to.

As time goes on we’re also taking more steps to prepare for the baby. Like registering for gifts, building our crib, getting a stroller and setting dates for showers.

Feeling Your Baby Kick is the Most Exhilarating and Comforting Experience

The first time I felt Baby K move I was sitting in my chair working on my online school courses. It felt like nothing I have ever felt before in my stomach. I knew it was the baby making little movements.

As the weeks went on her kicks became more pronounced and my husband was able to feel them as well. One time he put his head on my stomach and she kicked him hard on the ear!

It’s such an incredible experience to know your baby is alive inside of you. It’s also reassuring to feel them move around rather than having to wait to hear the heartbeat at each appointment.

Read Up on Breastfeeding + Birth

As a first-time mom and someone who hasn’t had a lot of experience with babies, I’m not really sure what to expect when Baby K comes. Although a few people have told me your instincts kick in once the baby comes and to not worry. At the same time, I’ve still been doing a lot of reading and asking questions to those who have kids.

Read a book on breastfeeding

One thing I’m really glad I decided to read up on is breastfeeding. I wasn’t planning to read a book on this subject. While I was at the library a new book from the La Leche League, The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding was on display.

I thought it would be a good idea to familiarize myself with this topic. I really want to breastfeed for a long time. I know a lot of women can struggle with breastfeeding. I want to make sure I have resources in place before beginning this journey.

Take a breastfeeding class

I also signed up for a free breastfeeding class with our public health unit. I know I can’t anticipate what problems I may run into. I can inform myself of strategies to deal with possible obstacles.

Learn about labour and delivery

In addition to researching breastfeeding, I’ve also tried to learn about labour and birth. Although I understand the biological mechanisms related to birth the actual experience of it can be quite different.

I’ve read a lot of birth stories online. I’ve watched YouTube videos on different birth experiences from having an epidural to a cesarian section. To having to spend time in the NICU.

It’s important to be informed about possible situations that I could encounter and to learn from others experiences. As much as I hope my birth will go smoothly I know that unforeseen situations arise and that’s okay. At the end of the day what I most want and pray for is a healthy baby.

If You Want to Have an Unmedicated Birth Prepare for One

One of the main reasons I chose midwifery care over a doctor for my pregnancy was my desire to have an unmedicated birth. I know that may seem like a lofty goal or unnecessary in the world of modern medicine. I feel strongly it’s the right choice for me.

I also credit my mom for inspiring me to desire a natural birth experience. And to choose a midwife. She made the same choice for the birth of me and my sister.

Additionally, I’m more comfortable with this model of care since my pregnancy so far has been healthy and without complication.

I also find it interesting that most births around the world are attended by midwives and having a doctor present for birth has only become common in the last couple of centuries.

Decide what type of care is best for you

However, each woman along with her partner has to decide what is best for their particular situation. Do what you feel comfortable with. It is also important to research the difference between the midwifery model of care and the techno-medical model of care. To be fully informed what one’s options are regarding care during pregnancy and birth.

One book I have found very helpful is Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth. As a midwife, Ina May approaches childbirth as a natural part of life that a woman’s body is fully capable of the undertaking without the use of pain medication, and unnecessary medical interventions.

Instead, she outlines strategies to cope with the pain. Like

  • soaking in a tub
  • massage
  • positive affirmations
  • a dimly lit room
  • an atmosphere of relaxation and calm
  • moving around in labour
  • letting gravity work for you
  • eating and drinking during labour
  • trusting the women’s body to perform.

Granted not all midwives exactly line up with her views and not all doctors use unnecessary medical interventions.

Nonetheless, as a mom to be I want to be aware of how I can best be prepared and what points I want to talk about with my midwives to ensure we are all on the same page for birth.

This Ted Talk was given by Ina May it explains her views on birth and why it is not something to be feared.

Research Baby Must-Have Products and What Other Mom’s Regret Buying

Currently, I live in a very small apartment. I don’t want or need a ton of baby stuff. The most helpful thing I’ve done to ensure I’m not adding too many things to my registry is reading blogs from other first time moms on what products have been most useful for them.

I also find it helpful to learn about products that other moms regret buying.

A few must-have products I’ve included on my registry are:

Some not as essential products include:

  • wipe warmer
  • diaper genie
  • change table
  • nursing pillow
  • expensive diaper bag
  • bottle warmer

Every baby is different and these lists aren’t universal. Before spending a lot of money I make sure I’m buying a product that is worth my investment.

People are Very Generous

Finally, when people find out you’re expecting, especially your first they can be very generous. I’ve had a few moms from our church give us hand me down baby clothes and extra baby products they didn’t use. As well our families have been extra generous in supplying the larger baby items we will need.

As a first-time mom, being somewhat young and not having a ton of extra income to splurge on baby things I have been so overwhelmed with people’s generosity towards our little family.

Once again God has shown us that He will provide for us and we don’t have to worry. God gave us Baby K in His timing and we knew that He would help us provide for this little blessing.

I know that one day when I can help out a young family I’ll understand how much it will mean to them.

For more information on midwifery check out the following resources:

Canadian Association of Midwives

American College of Nurse-Midwives


The State of the World’s Midwifery

For more on my pregnancy and postpartum journey read:
1st Trimester Update
2nd Trimester Update (21W2D)
3rd Trimester Update
Everything No One Tells You About Your First Pregnancy (Part 1)
Everything No One Tells You About You’re First Pregnancy (Part 2)
Baby K’s Birth Story + Baby K’s Birth Story Part 2
Everything No One Told Me About Postpartum
What to Eat While Breastfeeding

12 Replies to “Everything No One Tells You About You’re First Pregnancy (Part 2)”

  1. Good luck on your pregnancy, you look so cute in your photo’s and so tiny! I never got a diaper bag, I found all of them so unattractive. My business partner gave me a lovely big bag that I wanted for ages (but found too expensive to buy for myself) as a birth present. It was big enough for all the baby stuff, plus it was supercool!

  2. Oh wow I definitely couldn’t do an unmedicated birth. I can’t do pain, and my husband and I feel there is a reason doctors are there in case of emergency. But you are totally right, you’ve gotta do what’s best for you and your husband! You look darling in your maternity clothes!

    1. For sure! A midwives scope of practice only goes so far, I’m very thankful I can have access to both types of care in case an emergency arises.
      Aww thank you <3

  3. The second twenty weeks do go by so much more quickly. I remember the first twenty weeks just dragging! Although I was tossing my cookies pretty well all the time, so it probably seemed even longer. Those kicks are amazing. It is the best feeling watching your body grow and change with this new little life. I loved every second of being pregnant!

    1. I was sick as well for about the first five months, definitely not fun 🙁 Yes! I feel like I’m going to miss being pregnant so much. I agree it’s such an incredible gift!

  4. I loved my midwife. Have you thought about a doula too? And mama, I’d say, move the nursing pillow to the must have list. Being comfy while feeding is a must! A regular pillow won’t cut it, trust me, I tried lol. Congrats.

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