Being Married Young is Hard Newlywed Reflections~Month 9

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Blogging is a platform to share one’s story. Over the past 9 months, I’ve been sharing snippets from my experiences being married. Although being married brings a lot of wonderful times, the last few months as I’ve shared have been hard.

At times I find it difficult to stay positive and feel hopeful for the future. Maybe you’re married and you’ve found yourself in a similar situation. It seems that for other people life is looking up, but for you, things almost seem to be getting worse.

Being Married Young is Hard

A difficult season of being married

Over the last month, I’ve considered quitting school multiple times. I’ve worried about not graduating and not finding a job after I do. I’ve questioned whether university was the right choice. Whether I should have just done a two-year college program because I could have been working by now.

Despite my doubts, I’m grateful for the privilege of my education and the knowledge, skills and life lessons I’ve gained along the way. At the moment though it’s not the easiest thing to handle. I’ve had some personal things come up and between trying to figure those out and stay on top of notes, assignments, readings, group projects and just attending class it’s been overwhelming. I’m constantly thinking about school and what I need to accomplish for my classes.

Honestly, I just feel like I’m in a season of being tested, refined and taught. It feels like God is showing me that I need to trust Him, that I need to depend on Him alone, that it’s okay to lament my sorrows and to be dead honest with Him.

God is faithful

No matter what I know that God is faithful. He has been faithful in the past and He will continue to be. I know that God is good. His mercies are new every morning. I know these things.

Lately, I have been tested on how true they are to me. How much do I believe these things? I’m questioning why is this happening? I don’t want to give a Christian platitude. I don’t want the surface answer. Maybe sometimes we just have to sit in our sorrow.

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Learning from David

Recently I have been reading 1 Samuel and learning SO much! One theme that has stood out from this book is that bad, unfair things happen to people who love God

Take for example David who was a man after God’s own heart. God specifically chose him as a young man to be the next King of Israel. Prior to that happening though he was relentlessly pursued by the current king. He lived in fear of his life and was constantly on the move. He suffered a lot, just take a look at some of the Psalms he wrote.

Yet David never failed to stop living his life in a way that honoured and obeyed God. He was given an opportunity to kill his enemy but refused to because that man was God’s anointed.

Overall David trusted that God in His timing would appoint David to be king. Reading 1 Samuel encourages me to remember that I’m not being punished, but sometimes we just go through more difficult seasons to learn a lesson before God unfolds a different season of life

David is also a great example that it’s okay to tell God your frustrations. If you’ve ever read Psalms a lot of passages express the frustration of one’s enemies and wanting God to provide vindication. The Psalms show that you don’t need to hold back how you’re feeling from God.

Try reading some Psalms as you’re praying. God is not intimidated by our emotions. He loves us and wants us to draw near to Him in hard times. Often after I pray about a situation I can fall asleep with a peaceful mind, because I know God is greater than my situation

Learning to support and encourage each other as spouses

On the relational side, God is teaching me and Michael to support and encourage each other when we are feeling weak. He is using Michael to encourage me for sure. I’m grateful that he speaks truth into my life and makes me smile when I’m feeling sad.

I feel so blessed to be married and to have a spouse to share these burdens with. He reminds me that we’re a team and we will get through this together.

How God has blessed us lately

I’d be remiss if I didn’t share the ways God has blessed us lately. The first example is a simple superficial one, but it meant a lot to me.  I haven’t bought eyeshadow in over two years. The last time I did it was with a gift card and it was an expensive brand. I hardly buy makeup over $10 when I have to. A few weeks ago I was presented with an almost new eyeshadow palette from a family member.

This small gesture of kindness was so significant to me because it was a small luxury that I did not expect.

Next, our landlord offered to help Mike with his car so that he can start driving it. I am so thankful for our landlord, he is so kind to us. God really blessed us with our apartment.

Yes, the past few months and even this week have been a lot to deal with. These events are part of life. They don’t take away from God’s sovereignty or His plans for our future. Going through difficult times allows one to fully appreciate the better seasons of life!

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9 Replies to “Being Married Young is Hard Newlywed Reflections~Month 9”

  1. This sounds so close to what I was experiencing before I quit my job. I had so much anxiety after getting married (I too have been married for 9 months on Wednesday!). I had anxiety about work, about getting all of the housework done, about not being successful enough and letting my boss and husband down. I didn’t realize it until after I quit my job, but I was trying to “do it all” and it just wasn’t possible. God has done so much in my life since then. I will definitely be praying for you! You can always email me too if you want to chat more too.

    1. Oh wow! Ya I just feel that all the change can be jarring in ways I didn’t expect. That’s awesome! Congrats (: So true, I’ve recently been realizing that too, it’s really hard, but I’m learning it’s okay to not be able to do everything. Thank you so much, I really appreciate you reaching out to me (:

  2. I was married at a very young age. My husband and I have had and still do have situations that throw us in a whirl. We stay close to God and each other. We pray and see the Lord answering in ways we never expected. Put your faith is like a sixth sense!
    I hope your situation gets resolved soon.

    1. Thank you so much for your comment (: That’s so encouraging to hear how God can work in unexpected ways. Often times it’s hard for me to just take things one day at a time, having faith is so important. Thank you (:

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